After a long time, I read something that I wanted to read again..
.. and again.
The words did hit me that hard. The paragraph is simple enough –
You believe that creating your best possible life is a matter of deciding what you want and then going after it, but in reality, you are psychologically incapable of being able to predict what will make you happy.
Your brain can only perceive what it’s known, so when you choose what you want for the future, you’re actually just re-creating a solution or an ideal of the past.
Ironically, when said ideas don’t come to fruition (things never look the way we think they will) you suffer, because you think you’ve failed, when really, you’re most likely experiencing something better than you could have chosen for yourself at the time.
– Soul Anatomy (now defunct website)
I cannot help going through this statement in my mind without uttering a “wow..”.
Is there *anything* in life that you don’t link to the past?
You project the past on your future and want that past moment. You want to feel the exhilaration that was a specific moment and want to experience that again.
You want the world that you have constructed for yourself to be realized. The happy future is your own concoction of ideas or projections of a glorious past, corrected to suit your whims of course. Nothing wrong there – except that you think that eternal happiness is always one step ahead of you.
Either way, the effort is in vain.
You are either regretting or reliving the past, or yearning for the future full of happiness.
Human nature has made the present immaterial. The present is looked at as a tiny thread that connects this big, glorious, or horrifying, full-of-missed-opportunities past with the always uncertain, happiness-lies-ahead future.
And, there lies the problem.