You create your own hell. Self-improvement is the key to unlock the door, and get out.
Get out from your own hell. Don’t get accustomed to it, don’t for a moment believe that the hell is life. You can do far better – take my word for it.
You create your hell. The world around you helps.
Any hell, any perceived helplessness is your own creation. There are hundreds or thousands of simple ways to solve the problem. All you have to do is look around, get a new perspective, and have the will to live better.
Let me illustrate with an example.
One day Pat could not recollect the multiplication tables for 4. On the previous day Pat was lazy, watched TV and goofed around. But, Pat is too proud. So he narrates the multiplication table in his own way, and fails.
The whole class has a good time listening to Pat’s multiplication skills. The math teacher is bored, and gets a good laugh. He continues to get laughs at the expense of Pat for the whole year. The class and the math teacher brands Pat as dull in math.
Pat beings to think his earlier suspicion is rooted well. He had been thinking about his difficulties with math, and now the entire world has confirmed that he cannot get it. He starts telling other people that he cannot do math to save his life. Pat also chose arts instead of science major since he was weak in math, although he fared good in other science subjects.
Pat believed in others, and started creating his own hell. For fun, or for serious decisions, he started constructing an image of himself without the necessary math skills. Pat lived his life by believing a possible lie. His life could have been drastically different had he learnt how to narrate the multiplication table of 4.
Notice the change around you.
World’s always-a-changing. Don’t fail to notice that change. You must be knowing the frog in the boiling water story. No?
Pick the frog, place it in boiling water – it will jump up instantly.
Instead, place the frog in warm water. Slowly increase the temperature and see the frog calmly facing the vapour when the water boils.
Change introduced slowly may not be noticeable, but is not necessarily helping you. Change is not your enemy. Do not ignore change.
Notice the world around you. Look for situations that benefit you, beware of the negatives that may potentially impact you.
Any situation is temporary.
Any constraint is your own creation. You may create certain constraints for yourself during tougher times. But it is important to test those constraints time and again. Else you are the risk of meeting your maker by not caring about the situation enough.
Another example is needed to better illustrate my point.
The elephant calf is tied to a stem of a tree by a rope. The calf tries it really hard to get away. He wants to be in any place other than tied to a stupid tree.
He pulls in all directions but the rope does not give away. Next, he pushes the tree really hard, but the tree does not give away. Now he tries to climb it, but nature does not help him.
So, he resigns to his situation. He meets his parents when they are back from work, plays with other elephants when he is free, and silently talks to his friend, the tree, at remaining times. As the time goes on, the elephant is perceived to be harmless and is tied to a piece of wood stuck in the ground. The elephant calf sees the rope and does nothing.
As with all elephants, the calf grows to become a strong adult with a big trunk and a tusk.
The rope meanwhile has weathered many a pull and has grown weak. The elephant, however, remains tied to the tree day after day. He does not even move a muscle when he is tied to the tree.
The elephant had a situation here that it could not overcome. But that situation was dead. Even the gentlest of the tugs from the elephant would have given him the freedom to roam around the forest, but he remains committed to his older self.
Likewise it is likely that you may have far outgrown the constraints. They are just holding you back while they can.
Change your perspective.
I am not talking about putting yourself in the larger perspective, but the right one.
Can you read the morning news paper by holding it one centimetre from your eyes? But you do appreciate the news when held at the right distance.
Look at life’s perils in the same way. Measure the entire length, breadth and depth of the constraint, and hell, that is today. You know you are larger than the current situation by the mere act of that measurement. The act by itself gives you enough data to know when you will get away from that constraint, and how.
Self-improvement may be many things you hate to do. But this is the one thing that you will love. By just putting yourself in the right place, you are able to beat the cr**p out of any tough situation.
Life a happy life through continuous self-improvement.